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The Story of Different Opinions in a Family

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Having different opinions is very common. Usually if you have different opinions with your friends, you just accept it, and move on. However, what happens when you and your parents share different opinions? Every family dinner there could be remarks and comments about each other’s opinions and viewpoints. Having different opinions than your parents can cause stress, miscommunications, and frustration for all parties involved.

The amount of stress and pressure you may feel from disagreeing can greatly affect your relationship with them. At first you may think that it doesn’t matter that you don’t see eye to eye with them, but eventually it will eat away at you. You’ll notice that at first it won’t be a big deal, but it will build over time. Eventually you may snap and that will negatively affect your relationship.

Try to understand you family member’s position. Try to see the world through their eyes, and understand why their perspective is the way that it is. If you at least understand where they are coming from, you may be able to reach an agreeable compromise. If you’re able to talk to them about their opinions, then hopefully they will be willing to listen to yours. Continuously arguing over the same differences will just continue to drive a wedge between you.

If you’re able to come to an agreement, it’s time to forgive and forget. You can’t have a healthy relationship with anyone if you keep bringing up the past. Keeping score of wrong doings will create a bitter resentment towards each other. You must be able to forgive and forget it you want to fix your relationship. If you don’t, you might find yourself in a sticky situation with no help.

You don’t have to agree with everyone’s opinions, but you need to be able to have a functional relationship with them. Throughout your life you will find that you will disagree with plenty of people. Just don’t let it hinder your potential to grow as a person. Taking the time to learn about other viewpoints will only help you build your own library of knowledge.

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Motorcycle Laws of California

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As the weather slowly but surely warms up, the motorcycles start to come out. It only makes sense that nicer days bring out the bikes because who wouldn’t want to be outside, enjoying the weather. Motorcycles are also very nifty when it comes to dealing with traffic and getting to places faster. As the weather gets better, the tourists come out, and the motorcyclist get to their destinations quickly, despite the traffic. However because they are only two-wheeled vehicles they aren’t seen very well. On top of that, most people don’t realize that there are some motorcycle laws that differ from regular vehicle laws.

According to the California Department of Motorized Vehicles (DMV) there are a few variations between getting your motorcycle license, and your regular license. The biggest difference is that you’re required to take a certified training course specialized for motorcycles. This course will test your knowledge on motorcycle laws, your riding ability, and skill level. The course will also push you to make smart choices when it comes to operating your motorcycle.

Most motorists don’t realize that lane splitting is actually legal to do in California. Lane splitting is when a motorcyclist rides on the white lane between two cars, or when they’re sharing a lane with another vehicle. Lane splitting can be dangerous, especially if you’re not paying attention, or are not skilled. This should only be executed when necessary, such as during heavy traffic.

Motorcyclists are required by California law to wear helmets when riding a motorcycle. This includes any passengers at any age. The helmet also has to be approved by the Department of Transportation (DOT). You can tell if it has been approved if it has a DOT sticker or engraving. Any other motorcycle gear is highly recommended, but not mandatory. You can technically wear a swimsuit and flip flops while riding a motorcycle, however if you get into an accident, prepare for major road burns.

Operating a motorcycle is extremely fun and freeing. However it is also extremely dangerous. Between getting caught in peoples’ blind spots, and not having a protection, motorcycle crashes are some of the most deadly. That is why California has laws about helmets, and other safety precautions regarding riding motorcycles. Enjoy taking your bike out and about in California; just be aware of the rules, laws, and your skill set.

Do You Hate DUI Checkpoints? Here’s Why You Shouldn’t

Do You Hate DUI Checkpoints? Here’s Why You Shouldn’t

Do You Hate DUI Checkpoints? Here’s Why You Shouldn’t

Whenever a holiday that involves a lot of drinking rolls around, you can bet that there will be an increase in DUI checkpoints. With Saint Patrick’s Day right around the corner, you will definitely be seeing more of these checkpoints.

Most people do not like DUI checkpoints, and for obvious reasons. Checkpoints like these slow the flow of traffic and can cause gridlock. When a person has somewhere they want to be, getting stuck at a checkpoint can be understandably frustrating. However, while DUI checkpoints can be annoying, the police officers create them for a reason.

Roughly 800 people are injured by drunk driving accidents every single day, and that is without the excuse of a holiday to start drinking. In an effort to reduce the amount of accidents that could occur around a holiday, local police setup DUI checkpoints to catch people who are driving under the influence of drugs or alcohol.

Going through a checkpoint may be slow going, but it is incredibly easy if you have not been drinking. When you arrive at a checkpoint, an officer will wave you forward. The officer will then ask a few questions such as:

  • Where are you going?
  • Where are you coming from?
  • Have you been drinking?

After all of the questions have been answered, if everything checks out, the officer will send you on your way. However, if the officer suspects that you have been drinking, they will ask you to pull over to the side where another officer will perform a more thorough investigation. If it is determined that you have been drinking, then you will be arrested for DUI.


Driving while under the influence of any substance is never a good idea. Substances like alcohol affect a person’s abilities to make good decisions and their control over their motor skills.


Getting behind the wheel of a vehicle while drunk endangers the driver’s life, as well as the lives of every person that they pass on the road. DUI checkpoints help catch drunk drivers before they have a chance to hurt anyone, thereby making the roads safer for everyone around any day where people will be consuming more alcohol than usual.

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How to Recover from Identity Theft

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We all only have one identity, and for most people that is enough. However, some bad people out there like to steal other people’s identities to gain access to funds they normally wouldn’t have. This is called identity theft and can be very damaging to the person whose identity was stolen.


Most people learn about identity theft after some damage has already been done. They discover the theft when strange bills start coming in, or when they try to apply for a loan. That is when they find out their identity was stolen, and their credit ruined.


Thankfully, this is not the end for them. It is possible for a person to recover from identity theft. The first thing they need to do after discovering the theft, is contact the Federal Trade Commission (FTC) and file a report of the identity theft. The FTC will ask questions about the theft, and inform the person on how they can recover from the theft.

After that has been done, the person will then need to contact the companies where they know fraud from the identity theft occurred, and alert them to the problem. The person should also issue a fraud alert and get a credit report, which will allow the person to check for any other incidents of fraud. Lastly, a person can file a report with their local police department.

Learning of identity theft can be startling and upsetting, but it is possible to recover. The most important part of recovering from identity theft is remaining calm. This will help the person make good, clear decisions while on the road to recovery.

Motorcycle-Laws

Motorcycle Laws

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Each state has different laws in regards to a lot of things, but what you may not think about is the difference in motorcycle laws. California has a different set of laws pertaining to motorcycles than others states. If you’re thinking about getting your motorcycle license (M1), you may want to look at all the laws and requirements first. It’s not as simple as buying a bike.

Here are some of the laws the California DMV has in regards to motorcycles:

  • Eye protection is not required.
  • In order to be street legal motorcycles must have turn signals and a mirror.
  • The age requirement to obtain a M1 is 16.
  • If you are under 21 years old, you must take a safety course in order to get your M1.
  • If you are over 21 years old you must take a skills test in order to obtain your M1.
  • “Lane Splitting” is authorized per California Highway Patrol.
  • Helmets are required of all motorcycle riders and must be Department of Transportation (DOT) approved.
  • When carrying a passenger, footrests for the passenger are required.
  • There is no age limit for a passenger.
  • Periodic safety inspections are required by law, but are at random.
  • Daytime use of headlights is required for all motorcycles from 1978 and later.

There are several more technical laws in regards to handlebar height, insurance speakers, and ear plugs. There are two laws that vary the most between the states. Those two are the helmet laws and lane splitting.

The helmet requirement, even though it seems obvious for safety reasons, is not a law in other states. States like Texas don’t require riders to wear a helmet when operating a motorcycle. As long as they have completed a rider safety course, or have the proper insurance coverage. However, if you are under 21 in the state of Texas you must wear a helmet.

The lane splitting law is also different between states. Again, most states, like Texas do not authorize lane splitting. Lane splitting is when a motorcycle shares the lane with another vehicle, or rides the line between lanes. Lane splitting is common in heavy traffic situation. Motorcyclist will use lane splitting to pass vehicles.

If you’re ever in doubt of motorcycle laws in your area, the DMV suggests looking at their Motorcycle Safety pamphlet. Another great source of information for motorcyclist is the American Motorcyclist Association (AMA) website. On AMA they also have more information about off-road motorcycle laws, as well as all of the road laws.


Motorcycles can be fun, and freeing to ride. However, if you don’t follow the laws you might not be a free-bird for very long.


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Getting a Safe Ride Home in 2018

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It is the start of a new year, and that means new laws will be going into effect. One such law is California State Assembly Bill 711. This new law will allow alcohol manufacturers and licensed sellers to provide customers with discounted or free transportation through a taxi or other ride sharing service.

The idea behind this new law is to try and reduce the amount of drunk driving accidents that can occur. This will provide people who have consumed alcohol a safe and convenient way to get home. With this new law, bars and alcohol manufacturers will be able to offer vouchers for free, or discounted rides through a local transport service. Examples of these services include taxis, Uber, and Lyft.

Before this law, alcohol manufacturers and providers were not allowed to provide their clients with any sort of reward or incentive to drink their product. Under this new law, these providers will be able to offer vouchers for free or discounted rides home, however, they cannot be offered in a way that forces customers to purchase their product.


California is not the first state to allow alcohol manufacturers to provide this kind of service. There are 44 other states that have enacted a similar law in an attempt to reduce the amount of drunk driving accidents that occur on their roads.


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Partying too Hard

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The official countdown to the New Year hasn’t started just quite yet, but your party planning for the New Year may have. Whether you plan on staying in, or going out, plan your New Year’s celebration wisely. This is the time of year where DUI checkpoints are around every corner, so don’t drive drunk, and remember your driver’s license.

On top of being responsible, try to be kind to your body as well. PreventionLane.org has several tips on how to be safe when consuming alcohol. The first tip is to know your limit, and stick to it. Consuming too much alcohol can land you or a loved one in the emergency room with alcohol poisoning. When consuming high amounts of alcohol it is wise to keep your body hydrated with water and eat a well-balanced meal beforehand.

Prevention Lane also recommends slowing down and sipping your drinks. Along with sipping your drinks, it is also suggested that you alternate between alcohol and water. While you’re alternating between water and your drink, also try to space out the drinks. The faster you consume your drinks, the faster you will become intoxicated.


Most importantly, have a designated driver and friend. The more you drink the lower your ambitions and cognitive abilities get. Having a friend to help guide you and make safe decisions, can help you have a successful New Year Party.


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New Year’s Resolutions

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It is that time of year where people begin to form a list of promises they want to make to themselves. New Year’s Resolutions are positive and uplifting to some, while they are a joke to others.

According Nielsen.com, Newswire, the top ten New Year’s Resolutions are:

  • Stay fit and healthy
  • Lose weight
  • Enjoy life
  • Save more money
  • Spend more time with friends and family
  • Get organized
  • Learn something new
  • Travel more

The pros to having resolutions are that they provide you with an opportunity to reflect on your life. In order to form a list, you have to first look back and evaluate your life. Another positive thing about resolutions is that they give you a goal and help you plan the next year.


The cons to a list of resolutions is it enables procrastination. For example, if you failed to lose weight this last year, no worries, you can procrastinate again this year. Also, there’s a lot of pressure to actually do your resolutions, especially if you share your list with friends on Facebook. Ultimately it is a personal choice whether to have a list or not.


More Checkpoints Around Holidays

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DUI checkpoints can be intimidating to people, even when they have done nothing wrong. When it comes to DUI checkpoints, the only people who need to worry, are the ones who were drinking before they got behind the wheel of their vehicle. These checkpoints increase in frequency around holidays, especially ones that involve a lot of partying.

The police know that people tend to drink more around holidays. This leads to an increase in drunk driving incidents. That is why the police set up more DUI checkpoints around holidays like Christmas and New Year’s. The goal is to save lives by reducing the amount drunk driving incidents that can occur.

When a person comes across a checkpoint, they will likely encounter a line of cars. One by one, a team of officers will each call forward a vehicle to interview the driver. The officers will ask where the driver is headed, where they came from, and have they been drinking. They will also ask to see the driver’s license and registration.

So long as the driver cooperates, and the officer does not suspect that the driver has been drinking, the driver will be able to go on their way. However, if the officer does suspect that the driver has been drinking, then the driver will be asked to pull over to the side. From there, another officer will likely issue a field sobriety test. If the driver fails this, he or she will be held until they sober up, or someone comes to pick them up.


DUI checkpoints are nothing to be afraid of. They are only meant to catch drunk drivers. These checkpoints catch hundreds of drunk drivers, and keep the streets safe for everyone on the road.


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Fake Trees vs. Real Trees

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It’s time to put up the Christmas trees, and decorate the house for the holiday. Family, and Santa Claus, are coming to town. With holiday cheer on the radio and the smell of sweet, delicious baked goods in the air, all you’re missing is the tree. Now you have a questions to ask yourself: Do you go get a real tree so you can smell the pine, or do you purchase a fake tree to keep for several years? Deciding between which type of tree you should get can be complicated.

According to the LA times, fake trees are better for the environment in some ways. Since you’re not chopping down trees, the earth has more trees, which means more oxygen. Fake trees are also cost effective according to Money Crashers. You don’t have to buy a new tree that ranges from $30 to $150 each year. If you store your fake tree properly, you can keep it for several years to come. However, fake trees spend more time in the dump after being thrown away, since they take hundreds of years to decompose.

However, real trees smell like pine. The experience of picking out a tree every year can also become a family tradition. They also don’t need to be fluffed up to look realistic. Real trees can also sometimes be replanted, so you’re not reducing the oxygen in the air. Real trees can also be recycled easier and can go back into the environment without worry. Unfortunately, real trees can pose a fire hazard if not properly cared for.


Either way, having any Christmas tree is the perfect tree. From tall to small, real or fake, it’s not the tree that makes the holiday, it’s the memories that are made around them.