how to protect your child from a bully

How Can We Get Rid of Bullying?

how to protect your child from a bully

Bullying in schools and online is a very important issue and topic of conversation. Just ask anyone, and they will tell you that bullying needs to be eradicated. Unfortunately, since this conversation still exists, bullying is still a thing. This is despite everyone’s insistence that it should be dealt with. Often times, the problem is that kids just don’t see bullying the way adults do.

This means that it is up to the parents and school administrators to try and curb bullying. The parents can tackle the problem when their child is at home. Meanwhile, the school can deal with the issue when the child is on the campus. If both sides do their part and work with one another, then they can stand of chance of fixing the problem before it gets too out of hand.

What Is Bullying?

Bullying is any repeated act of aggressive behavior toward a specific individual. This aggressive and threatening behavior can happen in person or online. The act bullying can take many forms, including:

  • Physical – This includes things such as hitting or pushing. It even includes threats of violence.
  • Verbal – This includes acts such as name calling and taunting.
  • Relationship – This includes refusing to interact with the victim or spreading rumors about the person.

Bullying can be very damaging to a person, especially children. Kids who are bullied are more likely to skip school, in order to avoid the bully, and are much more likely to develop mental health issues such as depression.

If parents want to keep their kids happy, healthy, and safe, then they need to work to help eradicate bullying.

Putting an end to bullying would be so much easier if kids actually talked to their parents about their problems, and if kids actually listened to everything that their parents tell them. Unfortunately, that is not how the world works.

How Can Parents of a Victim Help?

Kids often want to try to handling things themselves, or are too afraid to talk to their parents about a problem. This means it may be up to the parent to recognize that their child may be suffering from bullying and talk to him or her. Parents should always encourage their child to talk to them no matter what is going on. This means that the parent always has to be there for the child, even if the timing may not be convenient. So long as a parent does this, the child is more likely to open up when they have a problem.

A parent should not encourage their child to fight back against a bully. Most schools nowadays have zero tolerance policies toward violent behavior. Teaching a child to fight back against a bully might just lead to him or her being expelled. Instead, encourage the child to walk away and find a trusted adult to report the problem to.

It is also important to teach the child how to report the incident to an adult. If done incorrectly, the adult may just think the child is imply tattling, which won’t lead to any solutions.

In order to avoid this when reporting a bully to an adult, the child should:

  • Explain what the bully has done to make the child fearful or uncomfortable.
  • Say who the bully is.
  • List what the child has tried to do to get the bullying to stop.
  • An explanation of what the child wants the adult to do to make the bullying stop.
  • A parent can work with their child to help teach them the best ways to do this.

How Can Parents of the Bully Stop It?

It is one thing when a parent has a child that is being bullied, it is another thing when a parent’s child is the bully. First of all, identifying that a child might be a bully isn’t always easy.

A parent should look out for the following behavior in their child:

  • Is impulsive and gets angry quickly.
  • Hits or pushes others to take out aggression’s.
  • Hangs out with aggressive kids.
  • Fights frequently with siblings.
  • Doesn’t understand how actions might affect others.
  • Gets into trouble at school a lot.

If a parent sees a number of warning signs in their child, they may want to sit down and talk with him or her. The sooner this kind of bad behavior can be curbed, the better. Not only does it mean less people will get hurt by the behavior, but it also helps break it before it becomes an ingrained habit.

The next time the parent sees their child lashing out at someone, tell him or her to stop and if that fails, remove him or her from the situation. Then talk to the child about they could have handled that better. Help the child practice techniques to help control bad behavior, such as taking deep breaths and/or counting to ten.

Adults Need to Take Action

At the end of the day, kids are still learning about everything in the world around them. They need guidance from adults to teach them how to behave properly, without hurting others. Adults all need to take responsibility for the bullying problem. After all, everything kids learn, they learn from the people around them.

Adults need to put their best foot forward when kids are around and set a good example. They also need to sit down and talk with their kids when they exhibit bad behaviors. By doing both of these simple things, an adult is taking action against bullying.

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What to Do If Your Child Is Being Bullied

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As a parent, one of the most heartbreaking things that can happen to your child is for them to come home from school one day and tell you that they are being bullied. At first you might feel angry, “How could someone pick on, tease, or taunt my child? Their parents should have taught them better. I am going to call the school right now and get their number so I can give them a piece of my mind.”

As unfortunate as it may be, bullying is somewhat common now days. According to a study completed by the U.S. Department of Education on 2015, 22% of students ages 12-18 were bullied during the 2012-2013 school year. A staggering 20% if high school students also reported being bullied on school grounds in the past 12 months.

The study also revealed that boys are more likely to be physically bullied, while girls are more likely to be verbally bullied, face exclusion, and experience cyber-bullying. The silver-lining of the study found that even though bullying is most common in elementary school, the likelihood that your child will be bullied decreases throughout middle and high school.

Now that you have some statistics about bullying, you’re probably thinking back to the original scenario. What are you, as a parent, supposed to do if your child is one of the 22% of students that experience bullying? It can be hard to know what to say, but the most important thing to do is make sure they know you are there for them. You should not ignore the situation, but rather sit down and discuss what is going on with them. They need to know that their voice is being heard, someone cares about them, and that they are not alone.

Your parental instincts might tell you to have the child fight back or stand up for themselves, but that’s not always the best choice. Rather, take a stance against the bully together by letting them know you want to help and that you will get through the situation together. No matter the age, being bullied is never fun and can be painful to deal with. No matter what, make sure your child knows they are not alone and you will with fight it together.

Read our blog about how to prevent bullying here. For more resources about what to say and what not to say to someone being bullied, click here.

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Prevent Bullies

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New year, same problem. It’s the start of a new school year, which means new classrooms and new friends. For some, it also means facing new bullies. Let’s join the nation and take a stand against bullying one child at a time. What better child to start with than your own? The new school year is the perfect opportunity to start, or continue, the conversation with your kids about the importance of being kind to everyone and avoid being a bully.

A bully isn’t just someone who beats up on another student. According to the CDC, “Bullying is any unwanted aggressive behavior(s) by another youth or group of youths that involves an observed or perceived power imbalance and is repeated multiple times or is highly likely to be repeated. Bullying may inflict harm or distress on the targeted youth including physical, psychological, social, or educational harm.”

It is important to talk to your children about the different types of bullying. They are physical, verbal, and relational. Physical bullying is when one hits, kicks, punches, spits on, or trips another person. Verbal bullying is when someone taunts, calls another person a name, threatens, or makes sexual comments to someone else. The final type is relational, meaning someone is trying to harm another’s personal relationship by isolating them, spreading rumors, or sharing images.

According to, children are most likely to be bullied throughout elementary school. One of the key ways you can help prevent bullying is to address the bullying whenever and wherever you see it taking place. It is also important to talk to your children about the importance of being inclusive and kind to everyone, despite differences you may have.

If you would like more information on the warning signs, bullying prevention, or other educational materials, click here.

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Bullying can be Conquered

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The bad guys in the movies don’t have a whole lot of fans. There are even some characters in films that everyone despises because the actors played the part so well. We don’t like the villain ruining our favorite heroes’ lives; so why do we let bullies continue to exist. Why don’t we try to change their motivation similarly to how we root for our favorite super villains’ to change their ways?

Let’s talk about the problem of bullying, even with our friends and family. Talking about bullying, and the problem that it is causing can help eliminate it all together. It’s a step in the right direction. Having an open conversations with your kids about signs of bullying, and how to be kind to others can go a long way. We need to not just focus on the victims, but also acknowledge the bully too, is suffering.

We need to confront the problem we face with bullying. A bully can be formed from many different scenarios. If a child has dysfunctional childhood, or is lacking some metaphysical need, they could eventually channel negative energy on to another kid in the form of bullying. Then the victim of the bullying generally has two options, talk about the problem or ignore it. The victim’s perspective on life will influence their decision.

Don’t let bullying fester, talk about it. Talking about it with friends, family, or someone who can make a difference is generally the healthiest option. If a victim decides to ignore the problem, this is where the sad stories start to form. This is where everyone feels bad, and wishes they could have done something different. That is why you shouldn’t let it fester. Don’t feel bad; be proactive about asking people: “How are they really doing?”

In a society where we glamorize everything being perfect, it’s time for us to acknowledge the imperfections of our world. Bullying needs to be addressed, not just after a tragedy, but constantly. There needs to be a conversation about bullying because bullies grow up to become bigger bullies. Bigger bullies will eventually pay a price that can be life altering, such as landing in jail. The lesson here is that we need to talk about it, we need to be proactive, and most importantly we need to listen.

Dealing with Bullying Starts with Ourselves

Dealing with Bullying Starts with Ourselves

Dealing with Bullying Starts with Ourselves

Nobody likes bullies. If you were to ask any adult out there what they think about bullying, they would say something along the lines of needing to stop the bullying. However, while just about every adult preaches this, many of them struggle to actually walk the walk without even realizing it. Our kids see this, and that is why bullying is still so prominent in schools.

A perfect example of adults exhibiting signs of bullying comes from the recent NBA All-Star game, or more precisely, the national anthem that was sung before the game. Black Eyed Peas singer Fergie decided to sing, rather unsuccessfully, the Star-Spangled Banner with a more sultry, jazzy influence. Needless to say, this rendition of the anthem was not received well by the general population.

Now, how does this apply to bullying? Well, after hearing this version of the anthem, the internet did what it seems to do best. People began leaving horrible comments about Fergie and her choice. Millions of adults began to harass someone for making a choice, and while it might have been a mistake, does she really need millions of people telling her about it?

We adults talk about ending bullying amongst kids, and yet we still continue to do so ourselves. Think about every time you drive and another driver does something or makes a mistake that upsets you. You probably end up cursing them in some way, and if you have a child in the car, they will pick up on that. They see more than we realize. They see all of the different ways that we say something cruel to someone who made a mistake or was different, and then they take it to school.

If we adults truly want to end bullying, we need to start with ourselves. We need to set a good example for the next generation by watching what we say and do to others. By setting our best foot forward, our children will learn to do the same. It may not be an easy path, since there will always be things that upset us, but it is a step in the right direction.

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Are Parents Legally Responsible if Their Kid Is a Bully

Are Parents Legally Responsible if Their Kid Is a Bully?

Are Parents Legally Responsible if Their Kid Is a Bully

Holding Parents Responsible for Their Child’s Bullying

Without a doubt, parents have a duty to do their part to ensure that their kids do not bully others. They need to regularly remind their kids about the importance of treating others the way they would want to be treated. They should talk about how some things we might do or say to someone that seem funny at the time are actually pretty hurtful. When it comes to preventing cyberbullying, parents need to regularly check in on the online behaviors of their kids. Problematic behaviors need to be addressed with reasonable and appropriate discipline. In general, parents need to instill in their children an ethic that includes respecting others and always acting and interacting with integrity, whether online or off. And they can do that in a caring and authoritative manner that encourages emotional connection yet demands respect and accountability. Indeed, research has shown a positive parent-child relationship makes it less likely that youth will engage in bullying behaviors as they do not want to risk damaging the valued bond.

But if parents fail to take these steps and their child bullies others, should the parents themselves be held criminally responsible?

Bullying has become a disturbing trend, and state legislatures are responding with increasingly stricter anti-bullying laws, such as “Phoebe’s Law” in Massachusetts, named for a 15-year-old girl who killed herself after being bullied. These changes in the law may make parents wonder about their legal responsibilities for their children’s behavior—and rightfully so.

What follows is a brief guide to parents’ legal responsibilities regarding bullying.

Look to State Law

Both tort and criminal law are governed by states, so you must look to your own state’s legislation to determine your legal responsibilities regarding your children’s behavior. State laws vary greatly, but according to Love Our Children USA, 47 states do have some kind of parental liability law. In those states, parents may be held responsible for negligent or intentional acts as well as for crimes of their children.

Generally, parents may be responsible for the behavior of their “minor” children—the definition of which also varies by state—although liability usually does not attach until the child is between the ages of eight and 10.

In civil suits against parents, some states place limits on damages, but several don’t. In particular, claims have been brought against parents of alleged bullies based on claims of intentional infliction of emotional distress under homeowner’s insurance policies; negligent supervision is another possible cause of action.

But parental responsibility may extend even beyond monetary damages and into criminal liability, depending on how far the bullying has gone. In California, for example, it is a crime for parents to fail to “exercise reasonable care, supervision, protection, and control” over their children, and one of the possible penalties is incarceration.

Across the country, parents may also be held responsible for paying juvenile court fees and even performing community service themselves when their children commit crimes or other delinquent acts. The best way for you to avoid any kind of liability for your child’s actions is to talk to them about the dangers of bullying and be available to your children to discuss such issues.

Click here to read the California Anti-Bullying Laws & Policies.

Avoiding Liability. Talk to Your Children about Bullying

Childhood can be pretty rough at times. All kinds of things are happening, and many times those things can feel bigger and more important than they actually are. As kids learn about themselves, others, and the world around them, they may develop some bad habits. The worst habit they can pick up, is bullying other kids. Far too often, you hear on the news about the worst possible outcome for bullying victims, the ones who have had enough and just want an escape. Nobody should have to go through that, parents or child. That is why it is important for a parent to be involved with their child.

A child needs to know that they can always talk to their parent, that there is an adult in their life they can rely on. Let your child know that they can always come and talk to you about anything, and that you will help them solve any problems that they may have. Make sure he or she knows to be kind to others, and to report any bullying they experience to a trusted adult.

No one wants to be bullied, and it is up to all of us to erase it from existence. It will not be easy, but by being there for one another, bullying can be conquered.